I'm not sure what "normal" is. But apparently, I'm not it. Sometimes it hurts and I wish I were. But let's be honest, being me rocks, I get to eat cool stuff and to think interesting thoughts, and I rather like it (except when I'm depressed of course)
You aren't weird for liking to walk in graveyards. I love it. It's relaxing. Don't worry about normal. Fuck normal. Up the arse with a thorny stick. Worry about you as a person. You and what you like to do. Now who's up for a walk?
Normal = average Nobody is the exact average of any social group. Would you even want to be average? Why not be eccentric, or have some sort of stand out personality trait? Maybe it would be more fun. My experience in life tells me that everyone has some sort of problem, everyone has some sort of behaviour that atleast one other person would find unbearable, or not desirable, different or weird. It depends on who you comapre yoruself too, what is normal. If you are in a group of computer geeks and don't like computers, to them, you are not norlmal. But in a different social setting that might be considered uncool. Social society is complex and mostly kind of a waste of time, at times. It is better to pick and choose the people you would get along with, than try to fit in to something you are not comfortable with. Think about your fundamental passions and the kind of behaviour you want to do, and what sort of people also are probable to feel the same, then you won't have to get confused by all the hollow relationships typically encountred in schools, workplaces, where people get along for the sake of keeping peace (thats not bad either, but won't often lead to anything meaningful) Some people really overthink their own mentality, some people never consider their inner thought, I have no idea wich one is more common, but thinking of it as normal or not is pointless, it is what suits you and your life, that is important to YOU. A good lesson I learned in life, was to be a little more selfish (without hurting others) as long as I can care for myself first, I can also help care for society and humanity in a small way.
Most of the time, I really enjoy being out of the norm. People have called me weird or crazy, sure, but usually I also thought they were weird and I didn't understand their interests and the way they reacted. But because there are more of them than there are of me, sometimes, when I feel down, I worry that there's something wrong with me, that I should try to change. I always end up deciding that trying to change what I am would be stupid because I LIKE what I am, and I like other people who are weird like me. Sadly, I can't always choose the people around me. At work, at school, I have to talk to people who react in ways I don't understand: they aren't curious about things, or they talk very easily to everyone, of they make jokes I don't find funny. And apparently, they are the normal ones, and trying to be myself around them is too complicated and exhausting, so I have to pretend I'm like them to make things easier. But for this I have to understand how their brains works, and what things are okay by their standards, and I sometimes find it difficult. Long story short, Being yourself is awesome but not always possible D:
There is a majority, however, the individuals that fit into that majority are all not completely normal. Just because a lot of people think a certain thing doesn't mean the individuals don't have their own odd quirks.
When my family visits the cemetery my brother and I play a game of who can find the most interesting names or longest lifespans on the stones. It's a bit morbid, but we've been playing it since we were children.
i believe that being normal is a myth... i always wonder what exactly makes a "normal" person? People have tons of weird stuff, quirks, odd qualities! So, what exactly qualifies somebody to be "normal"? Do they just have no quirks, no wierd personalites and stuff? Or do they just think they have no weird qualities, and they somehow think they're better than others. I think that being weird is the norm ^.^ but that's just me anyway
I understand the to be a girl and boy and both and neither. It's weird to explain to people when you are a girl, but like both girl and boy things, yet feel like neither at the same time. And even that doesn't explain it very well at all. I generally just explain it as "I can just really get into a characters head" when it comes up in conversations, because my friends always wonder how I can write so well for guys It's just, I understand what they feel sometimes. And I can imagine what it's like to be each of my characters. It's also different in the sense that I feel this way even when I'm not writing. I'm not sure how to explain it, but I think you understand
eh, gender things are always difficult to explain to people who have never had to think about it. Like it's all so natural and obvious to them, and they don't understand why anyone would feel any different But, yeah, I think I get what you mean? And being able to so easily get into your character's head, or just to have an idea of what it could be like to be of another gender, that's a great quality, and you really must cultivate it!
There is no normal really. A lot of people don't know what to say and are constantly judging themselves from the sidelines (myself included). I think that it's really hard to for most people to figure others out, and the important thing is that we ask rather than assuming, and try to muddle our way through rather than giving up.
Asking people about thing *would* be the logical way out of this, and it would lower the chances of misunderstanding. Sadly, for many people (including myself) talking frankly about things is... difficult and uncomfortable. I'm trying to make me do it to have things as clear as possible, but it's hard (and it sometimes earn me some weird look) still, asking rather than assuming IS the good thing to do, yep.
'Normal' is what most people do/are.. And except for biscuits in miso soup and gender issues (although I am really boyish looking/behaving girl irl) I am definitely all of those 'non-normalities' above. But normal doesn't automatically mean right... Liking unpopular band, believing in giant flying spaghetti monster, being poor or ill, not having a mobile phone.. All of these things are not 'normal' but neither they are wrong in any way. They are just different (and interesting, in many cases: )
There are ways to work around awkwardness... finding the right people to be around is generally the best (and most difficult, I would imagine) step... thinking negatively about yourself doesn't help anyone, though x
Regarding your questions... Wanting your mother gone? Depending on how she acts and treats you, is not that absurd or mean (I would know, I feel like that towards my father). Eat misso and biscuit? I eat that McDonald's ice cream with the french fries. To feel guilty when you're happy? Maybe you think you don't deserve it or you can't believe or accept it (I must say you do deserve happiness)... I can tell you, no. Not normal to others, but normal to many people who also suffer and can understand you. I may not know you a lot, but what I see of your art and feelings, you're a good person with a beautiful heart (I know, this sounds cliche, but I mean it). So, know this: Many people are proud of you and are glad to think of you as a friend.
la norme, c'est là où les gens ne commencent pas tous à te regarder comme une bête étrange en te disant à quel point tu es bizarre. L'ennui c'est que pour trouver la norme, du coup, il faut en franchir les limites...